The Perfection Trap

Let me begin by saying: it’s a myth. No one is perfect, of that, I am certain. We sometimes live in a bubble, hoping we’ll find out differently. We wish for people to not disappoint us, we hope to be understood, and we do our best to be…perfect.

Our society focuses on hiding all of the blemishes. As women, we’re taught from a young age to hide our flaws. We watch our mothers talk about their body like it’s a liability, instead of the work of art it is. We see a society that praises people so skinny all you can see are their bones, and yet, we aspire to be that. We poke and scrutinize our own faces and freak out at the first sign of a wrinkle, instead of appreciating that we are growing into our womanhood.

Ladies – when did we get this idea that perfection was the standard, let alone, attainable? We know deep in our hearts that no one is perfect and quite frankly, that’s what makes us lovable. Our flaws and imperfections are what make us unique.

So while it’s okay to put makeup on before going to work and good to go to the gym to stay healthy, may we never strive for an unattainable goal that will only do two things: It will make us miserable and perfection will make us her slave.

Instead, let’s celebrate the characteristics that make us unique, instead of trying to hide them.

You are the only one in the world who can be YOU. Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.



23 Comments on “The Perfection Trap

  1. Yes, I think I am a perfectionist of a type. Interesting post, and yes, I need to be more accepting of my faults as well as my gifts!

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  2. I have a book- trapped in the thin cage and it speaks to the same thing! Nobody is perfect and it can be dangerous to have that train of thought.

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  3. I think every woman is kinda perfectionist in at least one aspect. When it comes to my hubby and son, I am one but definitely not all the times.


  4. This is such an important message! I have never really struggled with the perfectionist thing for my appearance, but I do struggle in other areas.


  5. Love that quote. I try to instill that in my kids each day to be the unique them that there is only one of. Sometimes it is hard to go the road less traveled but it truly is more rewarding!


  6. Love this! definitely needed this today because it’s easy to forget that we are who we are and i’ve definitely been trying to keep up with everything at the moment!


  7. There is absolutely no such thing as perfection even though we think that there may be. You are so right!


  8. Perfection is something that is held to a standard that we think is normal. We need to celebrate those imperfections more.


  9. We were all born of imperfection. This is why I don’t understand how people strive on being perfect instead of embracing some of their imperfections. – HilLesha


  10. I love this! It is so hard to not fall into that trap these days – and comparisons as well! Being comfortable as me is something I need to work on.


  11. I love this! I need to share it with my middle school girls as they often fall into the trap. They are constantly comparing themselves to others and not living authentically. Great post.


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